Why do we repeat the same negative patterns?
However, they can’t stop it or when they manage to do so, they tend to recreate the same conditions in a new relationship by, for example, choosing a partner with similar personality traits to the last one.
These types of behaviours can create intense emotional pain, frustration and a sense of defeat as we don’t seem to be able to change them. This often makes us feel blocked and trapped, almost like if we were controlled by some sort of pre-defined script that we have to follow.
These behaviours are automatic responses that come from a part of our mind that is not ruled by rational processes. Unprocessed stressful or traumatic experiences are one of the root causes of the tendency to fall back into recurrent patterns. These past events get reactivated by current experiences and make us feel anxious, fearful, depressed, angry.
